Continuation of question:
—- Shaytan is with us, I feel it’s wrong and her feelings are as bad as they were man’s. What I should do? I don’t want to cut her off my life but I don’t want to compromise with my faith. Thank you, may Allah (SWT) bless you and your family :)
Aww Ameen, JazakAllah Khair for the dua, sister! <3
Please note: I’m not a scholar or one with extensive Islamic knowledge so I can only advise you based on the research I’ve found and personal experience. I highly encourage you to further research the matter and seek advice from others with more reliable Islamic knowledge (i.e. a scholar or imam, etc) than myself. c:
First off, sister I want you to know masha’Allah I’m proud of you for 1) not wanting to compromise your faith and 2) for caring so much about your friend and not wanting to hurt her! :) I understand you’re in a difficult situation sister, as you don’t want to encourage her feelings but you don’t want to completely cut her off as she’s your friend. :c
However, I feel in this case, it is best for you to not continue being friends with her — I definitely understand it is much easier said than done, and it is hard to let go of a friend, but this situation isn’t good for either of you. :)
In the Light of The Noble Qur’an and Hadith:
In The Noble Qur’an, Allah (SWT) says:
“Do you approach males among the worlds And leave what your Lord has created for you as mates? But you are a people transgressing.”
Surah Ash-Shu’ara [26:165-166]
Narrated AbuSa’id al-Khudri: “The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: 'A man should not look at the private parts of another man, and a woman should not look at the private parts of another woman. A man should not lie with another man without wearing lower garment under one cover; and a woman should not be lie with another woman without wearing lower garment under one cover.'”
Sunan of Abu-Dawood – Book 31 Hadith 4007
Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah: “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, 'The thing I fear most for my people is what Lot’s people did.'”
Al-Tirmidhi – Hadith 3577
Perhaps you can try speaking to her and letting her know (politely and respectfully of course :)) that you do not feel the same way, similar to how to you would tell anyone if you did not feel the same way about them (i.e. if she was a male and told you how she felt, what would you say? :)).
I understand you don’t want to hurt her because she’s your friend and cutting her off immediately would her hurt, perhaps try slowly drifting from her so it doesn’t hurt her as much.
For example, you can try slowly decreasing the amount of time you spend talking to her and meeting up with her, etc. :)
Also, make dua to Allah (SWT), ask Him to help you and also to grant her hidayah and guide her to the Siraat-e-Mustaqeem (Straight Path), insha’Allah.
Lastly, I highly encourage you to speak to someone with more knoweldge (i.e. an Imam or scholar) at your local Mosque for example, insha’Allah they will be able to provide you with advice on how to approach this matter.
I hope I was able to help at least a bit, insha’Allah. May Allah (SWT) bless you and keep your Iman steadfast, and may He also guide your friend to the Straight Path, Ameen. :)